How To Prevent Violent Behavior In Your Child
Providing
your child with a stable, secure home life coupled
with a loving, but firm discipline and supervision is the best way you
can
prevent your child from acquiring violent behavior. This needs to be
implemented
early on, during your child's toddler and pre-school years.
Anyone who is involved in rearing your child (you, your spouse, caregivers and such) must be aware of the rules that your child should follow and how they should respond when your child breaks them. As soon a rule is disobeyed, do not delay reprimanding your child. Make sure, too, that your child completely understands what has been done wrong.
Children have very little self-control. Thus, as a parent, you must dedicate your time towards teaching your child that violent behavior is not acceptable. Kicking, hitting and biting are not appropriate reactions when angry. Teach your child instead to express anger through words. It is also vital that you child knows the understands the difference between real insults and imagined ones, as well as standing up for his or her rights and attacking other people out of anger.
When your child is with other children, it is important that you reinforce these rules. Let your child solve minor disputes on his or her own. However, when disagreements turn into physical fights, intervene right away. Separate the children and try to get them to calm down. If your child is involved in an extremely violent fight with another child, immediately stop the play session. Let your child know that there will be no playing if they fight, regardless of who started it.
Teach your child to manage his anger and turn away from his violent urges. Teach your child to say "No," turn his back or learn to compromise instead of resorting to violence. The best way you can teach your child to not be violent is to display a good example. Demonstrate to your child that talking out problems or disagreements is much more effective than using physical violence. Each time your child expresses his anger in a non-violent way, praise him and tell him how grown up he is.
Take care not to lose your temper in front of your child. When your child sees that you handle anger in a quiet, non-violent way, he will follow your lead. Do not let your child see your guilt or apologize whenever you have to punish him. If your child picks up your mixed feelings, he will think that what he did was right and that he is being unjustly punished. It is never the desire of a parent to punish their child, but there are times when punishment must be meted out. It is the only way that your child will fully understand the extent of his wrongdoing and make him assume responsibility for his actions.
Anyone who is involved in rearing your child (you, your spouse, caregivers and such) must be aware of the rules that your child should follow and how they should respond when your child breaks them. As soon a rule is disobeyed, do not delay reprimanding your child. Make sure, too, that your child completely understands what has been done wrong.
Children have very little self-control. Thus, as a parent, you must dedicate your time towards teaching your child that violent behavior is not acceptable. Kicking, hitting and biting are not appropriate reactions when angry. Teach your child instead to express anger through words. It is also vital that you child knows the understands the difference between real insults and imagined ones, as well as standing up for his or her rights and attacking other people out of anger.
When your child is with other children, it is important that you reinforce these rules. Let your child solve minor disputes on his or her own. However, when disagreements turn into physical fights, intervene right away. Separate the children and try to get them to calm down. If your child is involved in an extremely violent fight with another child, immediately stop the play session. Let your child know that there will be no playing if they fight, regardless of who started it.
Teach your child to manage his anger and turn away from his violent urges. Teach your child to say "No," turn his back or learn to compromise instead of resorting to violence. The best way you can teach your child to not be violent is to display a good example. Demonstrate to your child that talking out problems or disagreements is much more effective than using physical violence. Each time your child expresses his anger in a non-violent way, praise him and tell him how grown up he is.
Take care not to lose your temper in front of your child. When your child sees that you handle anger in a quiet, non-violent way, he will follow your lead. Do not let your child see your guilt or apologize whenever you have to punish him. If your child picks up your mixed feelings, he will think that what he did was right and that he is being unjustly punished. It is never the desire of a parent to punish their child, but there are times when punishment must be meted out. It is the only way that your child will fully understand the extent of his wrongdoing and make him assume responsibility for his actions.
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